Picking up from yesterday's blog...
On Wednesday I went to Fort William.
There were more donations to be left at the Foodbank. For a small population, just over 800 people, there are a lot of donations - what a generous and giving community! At the end of March (I think), Alex will write with the total amount that has been donated over the last year - now, that'll be interesting.
For most of us, a trip to FW means going here, there and everywhere. So, a trip to the tip with the Christmas tree and a few bits and pieces, charity shop with some things to pass on, the chemist for supplies for the up-coming trip to Peru with the Vine Trust, and ... so on it went.
Back to the manse via a few stops to drop off bits and pieces to go to other people instead of being stored on the floor of the study. If you would like to come for a chat about anything, as there is actually room for you to sit down, now is the time!
Yesterday, I was at Kilchoan for the Lunch Group Christmas Lunch. Very delicious it was too - thank you to the Community Centre ladies! Craft group was fun, lots of activity and chat. Dropped into one of the local businesses to wish them Happy New Year and then back to the manse. There are other businesses to be visited next time.
Today, we've had breakfast while, from the kitchen window, watching a white tailed sea eagle swooping and diving onto prey - stunning.
Desk now to prepare Sunday worship and for a couple of meetings soon. Below is one of the photos I took on the way back yesterday. It's a slightly different one to that on my own page. Ben Resipole on the right and Ben Nevis in the centre. Moon reflection on the bottom edge. Full moon, wolf moon.
Sunday's worship was interesting - at one service the reading was not the one expected. I spent the time of the reading frantically tweeking what I was about to say! It all worked in the end - it's amazing how that happens! Praise God!!
On Monday, there was 'Church Lunches' at Acharacle. There was a good crowd there and lots of laughter and chat. Hospitality is such a gift and the team love to share their gifting with all who come along. I missed lunches as I was out and about doing other things.
The next morning, Tuesday, there was a Messy Church planning meeting at the manse. We now know what we'll be doing for the next few months and that's following some of the parables (stories) that Jesus told. So many themes to explore and fun to be had. Messy Church is usually on the last Monday of the month at Shielbridge Hall from 3.30pm unto 5.30pm. Why not come along and have some fun.
That's all for today. Over then next couple of days, I'll get up to date with this.
After the busyness of December, the first week of January usually quiet - thankfully!!
This week has been a chance to catch breath, clear up the study, sort out some paperwork and admin (there's always more of that than expected), a couple of pastoral visits, take the manse mutt for extra long walks and to do some reading. It's been nice, and it's reminded me of the importance of actively taking a Sabbath, a rest time from busyness, to let the voice of the soul fight back, elbow it's way back, into balance with everything else. It's almost like re-seeing the wood for the trees. Taking a step back allows a regaining of a sense of perspective, or balance and, hopefully, seeing what is important and what's not.
New Year is a marker in time that allows us all to step back and to try to work out what's important and to regain perspective. May your soul elbow hard and make itself heard loud and strong. That's your connection with the divine that is in us all. May you hear that voice and remember that for a healthy, happy and fulfilling life (not just 2020) we all need to take care of ourselves, body, mind ... and soul!
Every blessing for 2020,
Weddings. I've just seen another post that suggests humanist weddings should be a preferred option for any couple. The sub-text is that their ceremonies are far superior to anything else, full stop! Well, let’s have a look at some of the points they put forward.
Venue. In Scotland, the licence to marry is with the celebrant and not the venue. This means that anyone licensed by law can carry out the wedding ceremony in any reasonable venue. This is not exclusive to humanists. While I’ve been here there have been weddings in many different venues, as well as in church buildings; for example and amongst other venues, there has been a wedding at the top of the lighthouse, under a tree and quite a few on beaches ( after checking tide times! ).
Spiritual aspect. Unlike a Humanist ceremony, a faith based religious ceremony will not ignore that part of a couple's relationship. Church congregations may be at an all-time low but that doesn’t mean couples don’t want a faith element in their special ceremony. If fact, there are many, many people of faith who have no formal religious affiliation who still choose to be married by a religious celebrant.
Religious differences. Faith ethos is centred around being kind, treating people with respect, and so much more. The faith celebrant, ( I write from a Church of Scotland tradition ) has the best interests of the couple very much at the centre of the ceremony. If the couple are from different religious traditions, weddings are a chance for couples of different faith systems to come together, discuss their own faith traditions and to incorporate these into their wedding ceremony developing a ceremony that accommodates most main-line faith traditions. Being open and honest with the celebrant will help for the day and, so important for their future, help the couple understand each other better.
Content of the ceremony. Each wedding is crafted ( very deliberate use of this word ), with the couple very much at the heart of the ceremony. This doesn’t mean ignoring the formal legal requirements of the wedding ceremony but it does mean these are incorporated in a way that suits each couple. There can be singing, dancing, pet ring-bearers ( though I’ve not experienced those last two … yet ), symbolic gestures, etc, all worked into the celebration. I know of ministers who have incorporated hand-fasting and, this summer, one wedding here included drinking from a quiach.
Inclusion of family. This has always been part of religious traditions. How family is involved is up to the couple and their families. Children are very welcome to be involved in the wedding of their parents!
Drama. Most dramas are caused by what goes on around the wedding at the core of the day. Who to invite, where to have the wedding worries about the party / reception, family tensions - these are what causes most drama!
Cost. If a couple decide to hold their wedding in a church building there will be a charge for the use of that venue, as there would be for any building. There would be charges for any organist and, occasionally, for the person who helps prepare the building for the day. Beyond that, there is no charge for the minister ( remember, I write from a Church of Scotland tradition ), but it’s nice to receive a donation towards the costs of ministry. Donations are charitable and alturistic, not fees or charges. Donations help with the cost of ministry in supporting the communities they are part of eg to enable other weddings, or baptism or funerals, of those who are less fortunate, and to provide ongoing pastoral support of all in their care.
Same-sex weddings. This is the only point on which humanists can claim to provide a service a Church of Scotland minister cannot.
After all that … is a humanist wedding best? Well, they certainly seem to believe that! I don’t. What is best for the couple is very much a reflection of who they are and what they would like on the day. Any Church of Scotland minister will work with the couple to achieve the best for them on the day - and, as mentioned above, continue to provide ongoing pastoral support as necessary. Perhaps humanists could be aware that others are just as good and offer the same range of services, with the addition of being open to acknowledging people of faith have value too.
Preparing for worship tomorrow. The season of Christmas has only begun and will last until the 6th of January - so we'll be having a Carol Fest and wearing, if we have any, Christmas jumpers!
It's not always easy to be happy and cheerful over this period, in particular. Today I visited, with a colleague, a bereaved family and we talked about their loved one. Beyond the biography of their birth and death, we remembered stories and what they were like. Laughter in the sadness, and thanks for a life well lived.
Please remember that if you are feeling down and would like to talk to someone, there are people ready and willing to listen - your minister included! In Scotland, the minister, as part of their remit / responsibility, has pastoral care of all in the parish - you don't even need to be a person of faith! How's that for care and concern?? Send a message or check out the contact details on the web page.
Today there was Messy Church at Acharacle, in Shielbridge Hall. The Christmas story has been told many times recently and today we heard the story behind on of the Christmas traditions - how the tree came to be decorated.
There's an old story of a fir tree sheltering the holy family. The tree was so happy to have done so that it shed tears which then froze into icicles, the first decorations.
We played traditional games, decorated and pinned icicles onto a large tree drawn onto lining paper, iced icicle-shaped biscuits and ate a large tea together.
On the 23rd, Monday, there were pastoral visits to the care home previously mentioned, and to a few other people. And more prep.
That afternoon, some of the manse family and I went for a walk to Dorlin. The light there was beautiful and I've put a photo below.
On Christmas Eve there was an afternoon service at Kilchoan and an evening service at Acharacle and over 80 between the two services. Good fun and great singing. Such a lovely atmosphere ate each service.
Mention must be made of the music. At Kilchoan there is no live music but one of the congregation has taken on the task of playing backing tracks from an old iPad - and she does it so well, thank you! At Acharacle all three regular musicians played at the Christmas Eve service! Usually, there are two musicians at one time so it's quite a treat to have all three. Again, thank you.
A short service at Acharacle on Christmas morning and the rest of the day, and Boxing Day, off! Phew.
Oh goodness, my last real blog post was a week ago! But then, it has been a little bit busy.
On Friday 20th I was supposed to be going to part of a team carol singing at the local care home, but I called off as the manse mutt wasn't well and I took her for a check up at the vet in Fort William. Vet couldn't find anything wrong but the mutt definitely had something going through her system - she's fine now, thankfully.
While we were in FW, I delivered 50kg of donations to Lochaber Foodbank. Those donations have been gathered over the peninsula, and are only the latest in the ongoing generosity and concern of local people for those who are struggling to get by. Thanks to one and all for their support of the Foodbank.
Saturday 21st was a desk day, preparing some of the upcoming services and events - and clearing the desk of the last few!
On Sunday 22nd worship was at Kilchoan and then Acharacle. I admit to a 'Christmas Brain' moment when my mind went totally blank and I couldn't remember what I was about to do. Thankfully, the congregation just smiled sympathetically.
Finally on the Sunday, while some members of the congregation were supporting the Free Church Carols, there were carols at Salen in the Hotel. Carols at the Salen pub is a new event and next year, so as not to conflict, I'll double check the date of the Free Church Carols. There was a good gathering at Salen and nearly 60 folk had gathered with most singing along. A good evening and not too late. Photos below after I've had dinner.
Photos now posted.
On Wednesday the congregation at Kilchoan held the last of their Mince Pie Mornings in the manse / meeting room. The mince pies were delicious and the chat just kept going.
I'd taken the camper van and the manse mutt as I was to stay at Kilchoan until the primary school nativity and play in the evening. There were pastoral visits to make, only half the folk I called on were in so the mutt and I had a walk on a beach (bit blowy out there!), I did some worship prep and had my dinner.
On Thursday I’d been invited to join the the primary school for their Christmas lunch, and very delicious it was too! The children were on a high after their nativity and play, as well as Christmas!
A pastoral visit and then, as I headed back to Acharacle, there were posters to put up advertising Christmas Carols at the pub and Christmas Eve services.
Carols singing outside the Village Store and then back to the manse. I took the evening off.
lovely venue and we enjoyed the evening - carols, teas, coffees, hot chocolate, cakes and lots of chat. Many thanks to the distillery staff ( Sophie ) for making us to very welcome.
Thursday was a quiet day in that there were no events on! Desk time for admin and prep, and prep, and prep. I admit to a late night, watching election results coming in. There's a lot to reflect on in the results, but I do hope and pray that politicians now turn their attention to looking after the needs of the people they have been elected to look after.
This morning, I've been to the High School with the neighbouring minister ( we are both chaplains there ). In at the deep end, we had a conversation at assembly about religion and politics - of how Mary and Joseph were caught up in politics, had to have their child with no outside help, were on the run from the forces of evil, escaped a kind of genocide. And yet, God was able to work through it all and Jesus grew to be leader of a movement that focussed on justice and helping those in need. We then talked of how churches are still involved in working for those causes - of how local churches are this Christmas helping eg Lochaber Foodbank and Lochaber Hope. Church will always be involved in politics, with a small 'p'. We then wished the children a Happy Christmas.
I'm now off to be involved in an assembly at the local primary school.